Are we really disciples?

Are we really his disciples?

When we are wrong, we scream “judge not” and “let he who is without sin cast the first stone”, but we ignore “go forth and sin no more” and “be holy as I am holy”.
We love all the “love one another” but ignore the “bear with one another” and “admonish one another”.
We love the “forgiveness”, but don’t want the “confess”, “repent”, and “cleansed of all unrighteousness”.
We hate to “run the race of endurance” but want the “I go to prepare a place for you”.
We want the “riches of heaven” but forget the widow: “For they all gave out of their wealth. But she, out of her poverty, put in what she had to live on, everything she had.”
If we are his disciples, we follow everything he taught both in person and through the Holy Spirit inspired Scriptures, not just the parts we like.

Then Jesus said to those Judeans who had believed him, “If you continue to follow my teaching, you are really my disciples
John 8:31 NET

The Melting Pot

America was called the great melting pot…

People from around the globe flocked here to become ‘Americans’ and have a piece of the “American dream”.

The melting pot worked for many, many years, with a few stirs along the way, because of the foundational elements that made it.

The pot was made with the biblical foundation of our Declaration of Independence, our Constitution, and our Bill of Rights. And, was fueled by the fires of our beliefs in a loving God, our entrepreneurial spirit, our national pride, and our patriotism.

However, the fires have cooled and the metal of our pot has been cracked and is breaking… we are no longer melting and blending together, we are separating like a recipe gone bad.

We have allowed the fires to be doused by disbelief and lost our national identity. We allowed snowflakes to freeze and crack our melting pot, like hot metal thrown into an ice bath…

The result is a divided nation!

If we want America to survive and thrive, we need to pray a prayer of confession and repentance, we need to return to the hope the first immigrants had coming here to have a better life, not remake the life they had, we need to believe again in a sovereign God that wants to bless our unity in spite of our differences. We need our fire to burn so hot that the snowflakes melt. We need to be proud and humbled to be American again, rather than whatever we used to be…

As we celebrate the coming anniversary of our independence, let us celebrate again what made America the land of opportunity in the first place… a loving God that delivered us from tyranny and oppression!

Hard Truth

This is a hard truth the world does NOT want to hear…

While we, as human beings, have all been made in the image of God, as descendants of Adam; we are NOT all God’s children.

The Good News is, God is ready and will adopt and forgive ANY and ALL who come to him in repentance and accept Jesus, as God’s gift of love and righteousness, making us all children of God and building a loving Father/child relationship with us, even indwelling us with his own Holy Spirit…

For the Scriptures are clear in many places:

“But to all who have received him – those who believe in his name – he has given the right to become God’s children”
John 1:12 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/jhn.1.12.NET

“(See what sort of love the Father has given to us: that we should be called God’s children – and indeed we are! For this reason the world does not know us: because it did not know him.”
1 John 3:1 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/1jn.3.1.NET

“By this the children of God and the children of the devil are revealed: Everyone who does not practice righteousness – the one who does not love his fellow Christian – is not of God.”
1 John 3:10 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/1jn.3.10.NET

“For all who are led by the Spirit of God are the sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery leading again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption, by whom we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit himself bears witness to our spirit that we are God’s children. And if children, then heirs (namely, heirs of God and also fellow heirs with Christ) – if indeed we suffer with him so we may also be glorified with him.”
Romans 8:14‭-‬17 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/rom.8.14-17.NET

“And although you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you formerly lived according to this world’s present path, according to the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the ruler of the spirit that is now energizing the sons of disobedience, among whom all of us also formerly lived out our lives in the cravings of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath even as the rest…”
Ephesians 2:1‭-‬3 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/eph.2.1-3.NET

“But God, being rich in mercy, because of his great love with which he loved us, even though we were dead in transgressions, made us alive together with Christ – by grace you are saved!”
Ephesians 2:4‭-‬5 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/eph.2.4-5.NET

“But if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous, forgiving us our sins and cleansing us from all unrighteousness.”
1 John 1:9 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/1jn.1.9.NET

“For this is the way God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world should be saved through him. The one who believes in him is not condemned. The one who does not believe has been condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the one and only Son of God.”
John 3:16‭-‬18 NET
https://bible.com/bible/107/jhn.3.16-18.NET

“Will I Be Fully Accepted at Your Church as a Gay Man?”

https://churchleaders.com/outreach-missions/outreach-missions-articles/265907-will-i-be-fully-accepted-at-your-church-as-a-gay-man.html

Older letter, but spot on responses…

Instructions for My Prayer Life from Paul’s Requests for Prayer Support

I recently was asked to research Paul’s requests for prayer.

They can be found in:  Romans 15:30-32; Ephesians 6:18-20; Colossians 4:2-4; 1 Thessalonians 5:25; 2 Thessalonians 3:1-2

In doing this research, I learned the following:

The main request that Paul made was that the message, the Gospel, be advanced in some way. He asked for prayer that his ministry be acceptable, that he be given the message to speak, that he peak boldly, that the doors for the message be open, that he make the massage known, that the message spread quickly, and that the message be honored. In addition, twice he asked for deliverance or rescue from disobedient, perverse, or evil people; so that he be able to spread the message of the Gospel of Christ.This makes it abundantly clear to me that his primary concern was to advance the Kingdom of God effectively. I would call all these requests, nine points in all, a prayer request for effective ministry of the Gospel of Christ.

What can we learn about prayer by studying Paul’s requests?

In addition to his request to have an effective ministry for Jesus, Paul also asked for prayer for joy, refreshment, all the saints, thanksgiving, and those with him including himself. I would say that none of Paul’s requests for prayer were selfish in nature. He instructed that Christ’s followers should be praying at all times, and over in Philippians, he said with prayer and thanksgiving make our petitions known to God. However, he never really asked anything for himself. The only real example of that is when Paul tells us he requested his thorn in the flesh be removed, and the answer from God was NO.
My thinking about prayer and my prayer activity will change in the following ways because of what I have learned.

For myself, I have always felt uncomfortable asking for prayer for myself in any way, or for things for myself or my family. When I have do so, like asking financial help or foxhole prayers, I believe that those things, though sometimes honored by God, were not in line with what I have learned from Paul’s prayer requests. Paul wanted above all else for his ministry to be effective, for the words to speak, the boldness to speak them, and the message to be received with openness. I will start praying these types of prayer much more often…

A Guide to Grant Writing

Grant Writing

Joe Hooten

 

I am writing this to be a simple guide to grant writing. The grant writing process requires so much more than simple study and regurgitation. Successful grant writing involves the coordination of several activities, including planning, searching for data and resources, writing and packaging a proposal, submitting a proposal to a funder, and follow up. It requires diligence and perseverance to write a good proposal. The grant writing process can be very long and tedious, but can pay huge dividends for an organization.

There are as many types of grants and funders as there are agencies in the world. While different funders require different information at times, there are still the basics that almost every grant application or proposal has a part of it.

  1. Preparation:
  2. Define your project
  3. Identify the right funding sources
  4. Contact the funders
  5. Acquire proposal guidelines
  6. Know your submission deadlines
  7. Determine personnel needs
  8. Update your timeline
  9. Writing the proposal
  10. Narratives including:
    1. Statement of needs
    2. Approach
    3. Methods of evalution
    4. Project timeline
    5. Credentials of key personnel
  11. Budget
  12. Supporting materials
  13. Authorized signatures
  14. Specifications
  15. Submission checklist
  16. Follow up

Alicia Vandenbroek, in her article, Grant Writing without Blowing a Gasket suggests that the first step to successful grant writing is to begin with the end in mind. I call this defining your project. Clarifying the purpose you seek to achieve and coming up with a mission statement. You have to define the scope of the work to focus your funding search. And, you have to determine broad project goals and then specific objectives that define how you have met those goals. In the article, Developing Grant Writing Skills to Translate Practice Dreams Into Reality, the writers agree the first step is to clearly identify an important problem to be addressed by the grant. This includes identifying gaps in care or quality of service and trying to identify some evidence based approach to solving the problem. Typically, funders prefer to fund proven methods.

The next step, which is the first tip that Blanco and Lee suggest is to match up with funding agencies and resources. Usually I would view this as the second step after identifying the project. It is important that you approach funders that will be a good match for your project or program. It is a waste of your time and theirs to seek funding from agencies that do not have the same priorities that you do. There are many different programs and websites that can help match your program with funders. A couple of these are Grantstation or grants.gov. In addition, every banking institution has a wealth management department that helps investors manage funds and foundations. Contacting these institutions can provide a route to finding funding sources for your project. Every funder in the world has a niche that they prefer to fund. Whether it be children, hunger, addictions, education, the Arts, etc… Matching the project to the funder is key in trying to get funding.

Then, you have to contact the funders to find out the specific requirements for requesting funding. Identify the project officer who will address your questions. Some funders offer technical assistance, others do not. Ask for assistance including a review of proposal drafts. Make sure you know how proposals are evaluated and how decisions are made. If a scoring key is used to grade proposals, ask if you can have a copy of one. Ask about budgetary requirements and preferences. The contacts you make will prove to be invaluable.

Some general proposal guidelines I have experienced are: submission deadlines, eligibility requirements, proposal formatting guidelines, timetables, budgets, funding goals and priorities, award levels, evaluation processes and criteria, whom to contact, other submission requirements. Read the guidelines carefully, then read them again and reread them. Ask for clarification on everything that confuses you.

Know the submission deadlines. Plan to submit your proposal on time or preferably early. Be realistic about whether you have time to prepare a competitive proposal that meets the deadlines. Know the funder’s policies on late submissions, exceptions, and mail delays. Find out how the funder will notify you about the receipt and status of your proposal. Be sure to factor this information into your timeline.

To determine personnel needs, you have to identify them by both function and, if possible, name too. If you have to, contact project consultants, trainers, and other personnel to seek availability. If necessary, acquire permission to include them in the project, and negotiate compensation. Personnel compensation is an important part of budget information.

At this point, it is always good to update your timeline now that you have the basics covered. If you have done everything thus far, you have done a lot. You are ready to move forward and begin writing your proposal.

Writing the proposal is the next step. The standard proposal components I have been asked to submit have been: the narrative, budget, appendix of support material, and usually an authorized signature. Sometimes I have been asked to create summaries and always provide copies of our IRS 501c3 certification. It is extremely important to understand the funders’ application process. A mistake in the presentation of even the best proposal will result in it being left off the consideration table completely. Pay attention to the requirements for submitting a proposal. Many funders have electronic applications these days and the process must be done exactly right. So be careful.

Alicia Vandenbroek, in her article, suggests the importance of naming a proposal appropriately. She says that a proposal is only as good as it can be remembered. “A simple yet unique title will make your grant memorable and can speak volumes about the content of your grant before the reader even begins consideration”, Vandenbroek says. While a creative name is important it is still important too that it have something to do with the project or mission.

In the narrative, you are typically asked to provide a history of your organization, a description of the problem to be addressed, appropriate statistics or background research, and of course, the type of support you are looking for from your grant request. Writing the narrative can be the most tedious of the processes to go through. However, once you have a great narrative, many times it can be adapted to meet different proposals. Also included in the narrative, is the organization’s mission and vision. There are many great resources for establishing a mission statement if your organization doesn’t already have one. A mission statement should be simple, straight forward, catchy, and memorable. The organization’s vision can be multi-dimensional and can encompass all the various programs and goals that the organization has.

Your narrative needs to include a statement of the need, purpose, goals, measurable objectives, and a compelling reason why the project should be supported. Typically, narratives include answers to the following questions:

  1. What do we want?
  2. What concern will be addressed and why?
  3. Who will benefit and how?
  4. What are the objective to be accomplished and how?
  5. How will results be measured?
  6. How does your funding request involve the funder’s purpose, objectives, and priorities?
  7. Who are you and how are you qualified to address such a need in the community?

What is the approach that you are going to use to accomplish the goals and objectives that you have set out? As I have said, the approach that is measurable and evidence-based and tested is most likely to get funding. Provide a description of the intended scope of the work to be done with expected outcomes, an outline of various activities, and descriptions of personnel needs, if possible.

How are you going to measure your results? This is where your scoring rubric can come in handy. Some funders may require very technical measures of the results that you produce. You definitely want to ask about funder’s requirements and expectations.

Remember to include your project timeline. This gives a picture of when your project will start and end. A schedule of activities. Also, projected outcomes. This should be detailed enough to include staff selection and start dates.

The credentials of those who are working in the project can be an important part of securing funding. If you are hiring someone to do a specific task, a funder is going to look highly on someone with significant experience or education. Funders like to know that their money is supporting a cause that will succeed in its goals and objectives. This takes strong leadership.

Then there is the hook. The hook is the big draw that describes the project in such a way that the funder really relates to the problem and wants to help. This is also associated with selecting the right funder. Being able to directly relate your problem and solution to the funders goals and objective, relating your mission to theirs, is what is going to secure you funding.

The budget should be a pretty straight forward project. Budgets are cost projections, windows into how your organization and your project are funded and spending money. A well-planned budget will reflect a carefully thought out project. If your organization doesn’t already have a budget then you are probably in trouble. The organization’s budget should include projections of all expenses, salaries, office supplies, utilities, incidental expenses, taxes, regulatory fees, insurances, and so on. There should be no surprises when it comes to expenses in your budget. In addition, a good budget also accounts for all income coming into the organization. These include donations, other grants, in-kind gifts, fee-for-service, other fundraisers, and any other way your organization brings in money to support itself. However, in addition to the organization’s overall budget, many funders will want a project budget as well. This is exactly how you intend to spend the money that the funder will grant to you. This budget usually is accompanied by a narrative of its own, which explains each expense and what it encompasses. Some building projects, etc… will require that multiple bids for the service be obtained to show that the monies that you receive will be spent wisely. Funders usually assess these factors to assess budgets:

  1. Can the job be done with this amount of money?
  2. Are costs reasonable?
  3. Is the budget consistent with the proposed activities?
  4. Is there enough detail and explanation?

Many funders will provide specific forms that must be submitted with your budget proposal. Make sure your budget is flexible. Just in case your funder wants to negotiate costs.

Creating a timeline for project completion is also an important part of creating a good funding proposal. In today’s world of instant gratification, being able to show short term as well as long term results and projections is very important. Everyone, whether funder or donor, wants to know that their money is making a difference and they want to see results yesterday. Having a good timeline for your project that can tell funders exactly what to expect when is necessary for most good proposals.

It is always a good idea and many funders require that you provide support materials for your project goals and objectives. Supporting materials are often arranged as an appendix. They may endorse the project and the organization, provide certifications, add information about project personnel like resumes, certificates, degrees, etc… There may be exhibit tables and charts that support your project goals. Policies about supporting materials differ greatly among funders. Some funders don’t allow any additional materials, others will allow as much as you can provide. Be ready to invest time in collecting resources, producing a video, brochures, references, reports, etc… As I said earlier, evidence-based proposals are the norm these days. Funders are less likely to fund something “new and innovative” than they used to be. So, this means that it is necessary to attach appendices to proposals that show how your project works and why it will work for your organization. If you have a rubric, a method for scoring your results, definitely use one. You may have to come up with your own if you are trying something new. But, there are also many available in public domain that can be tailored to whatever your project and goals are.

Authorized signatures are always a part of funding proposals. This may be the signature of the board chair, the CEO, Executive Director, or the entire board. The lack of a signature has resulted in many proposals being rejected.

There are almost always specifications that need to be met with every application. Know these guidelines. It may be that only a certain number of pages be allowed, a certain format to follow, double-spaced type, a specific font. There may be a form that goes with a proposal, an application to fill out, or a cover letter to type. Be sure you know the process.

There is almost always a submission checklist that needs to be followed. The proposal must be neat, on time, and complete, with the requested number of copies and signatures. Address the proposal as instructed and include the required documentation, especially your 501c3 certification.

Submitting your proposal once it is completed is the easiest part of the whole process. However, make sure you do it right. Some funders ask for an original and copies that they can forward to their reviewers. I have been asked to submit as many as 8 copies plus the original. Some funders are much easier, they have an electric submission process and you only have to hit send. Whichever way your proposal is submitted, follow up, follow up, follow up. Let the funder know that you are invested in the process and really want the funding. Contact the funder for application status, outcome of your proposal, and evaluations. Whether your project is accepted or not, it is important to ask for your proposal’s strengths, weaknesses, pros and cons. This can help you make better proposals in the future.

Most funders these days require at least an annual report on the status of your project. When you submit your report, track the items that you said you would. Alicia Vandenbroek suggests that you keep your clients’ confidentiality in mind. Make sure you collect aggregate data rather than using individuals’ names. Be sure to include a thank you both when you first receive your funding and whenever you submit reports. They will follow up on you to make sure the funds they granted are used in the way that they have allocated. This may be in the form of a report filed by you, or a questionnaire sent by the funder to be filled out, or even a personal visit from the funder to check up on you. Whichever it may be, be ready. Keep accurate records and be prepared for them.

My experience in writing grants has been invaluable. I actually wrote my first grant request in high school. It was a grant from the school corporation requesting funds for building a xeriscape garden at our high school. The grant was awarded and my high school was able to plant a garden that is still there today, more than 17 years later. Since working at the Upper Room Recovery Community, I have written many more grant requests. I have attached five of these as samples of the work that I have done. Thus far, although they have been smaller grants, I have been able to net $11,000.00 for our organization that is going directly to the benefit of the guys that live in our facility. I also provided the foundational information for another $25,000.00 grant that one of our board members obtained.

Although I have submitted many grant requests while I have been here, I must admit that not all of them have been accepted and approved. I have had to deal with some rejection as well. Being held doubly accountable by both our director and our board, I have had to look into the shortcomings of my proposals and work to become a better grant writer. In two cases, the funding wasn’t granted because our organization and the funder were not compatible. So, I know firsthand how important it is to find a good match before investing the time into writing a proposal.

By the same token, writing successful proposals has helped me to become a better writer and has increased my confidence to write further grant requests. The grant writing process is actually a lot of fun, even though it can be tedious at times. I have learned not to do the same work over and over again. In writing the narrative, I have certain points that I intend to get across every time. Some of the research that I have done does not need to be repeated each time. Such as our organizational history, the nature of the problem that we are trying to address, and our key personnel and their backgrounds have stayed the same over the past two and a half years. What has changed is some of our outcomes, success rates, and testimonies. I have learned that client testimonies of the impact of our organization in their lives is an excellent addendum to grant proposals that allow them. I have helped several of our clients pen their testimony to bring out the importance of our organization’s impact into their lives.

One thing to make sure of with each request is to have board support. I have found potential funders that our board would rather not be associated with. Either for personal reasons or for organizational reasons, there are some funders that we have not applied to simply because they are not a fit. The importance of finding a good fit is not just on the side of the funder looking at the organization’s project, it is also important for the image of the organization. A substance abuse recovery ministry does not necessarily fit well receiving funds from the foundation of a beer company. Although the foundation would be willing to support the cause, having the name association is not a good thing for our organization.

In my experience, grant writing can be highly subjective to the reviewer. Some reviewers are very intimately aware of the problem associated with the projects that we are addressing. Making a proposal that has a strong hook into every reviewer is a powerful way to ensure that projects get funding. In the case of our organization, we address substance abuse. One in every three people on the planet know someone with a substance abuse problem. That means that one of your friends, relatives, colleagues, or neighbors has or knows someone else with a substance abuse problem. Being able to relate that to each reviewer to tie the importance of the funding home for them is extremely valuable. I am lucky to be seeking funding for a problem that relates to so many so close to home.

On the flip side of the issue though, not many foundations and grant makers have the mission to support substance abuse ministries. So, I have had to do a lot of research into various foundations, organizations, and even individuals to find matches for our organization to seek funding. This research can largely be done online. However, I have also had to network and make a lot of personal and business connections to find funders willing to give to a substance abuse ministry. While this process is time consuming, it is also highly worthwhile. Some of the people I have met in doing this work are quickly becoming good friends. Having these kinds of friendships is also extremely valuable to the grant seeking process. They can introduce you to the right people that can make your funding happen.

I am also finding that the grant seeking process can be very political. Having a good public image is very important for an individual and an organization. Our marketing materials have contributed to this cause greatly. We have brochures and videos that are available both in print, on DVD, and streaming on the web. While I was not alone in the creation of these materials and in some cases only had a little bit of input, I use these materials to bolster the image of our organization and provide evidence to funders that our organization is a worthwhile cause to support. In order to see some of these resources, I invite you to visit the website that I created for our organization at http://upperroomrecovery.org.

In conclusion, the grant writing process includes the coordination of several activities, including planning, searching for data and resources, writing and packaging a proposal, submitting a proposal to a funder, and follow up. It requires diligence and perseverance to write a good proposal. Although the process can be long, tedious, and difficult in some cases, it can also be very rewarding not only on the personal level, but also for the organization you are serving. Personally, every time you write a proposal, you get better and better at the process, making you more marketable in the future. Organizationally, receiving grant funds can make you more viable in the future and also, depending on the grant maker, increase your public image immeasurably making it possible to secure more individual donations and public support for your projects. In all actuality, I would rather have one thousand $500 individual supporters than one $500,000 grant. Individual support has far fewer strings attached to it, is much more reliable, and if you lose one or two supporters there is far less impact on the organization as a whole than losing one large grant. However, grant funds can make many projects possible that otherwise would not get financial support. So, there is a certainly a place for both kinds of funding in any organization.

 

 

Bibliography

 

Blanco, Maria A. Mary Y. Lee. (2012). Twelve tips for writing educational research grant proposals.MEDICAL TEACHER. 34: 450-453.

Hadidi, Niloufar; Ruth Lindquist. (2013). Developing Grant Writing Skills to Translate Practice Dreams Into Reality. AACN Advanced Critical Care Volume 24, Number 2, pp.177-185.

Proctor et al. (2012). Writing Implementation Research Grant Proposals: Ten Key Ingredients. Implementation Science, 7:96 http://www.implementationscience.com/content/7/1/96

Vandenbroek, Alicia. (2010). Grant Writing without Blowing a Gasket. LIBRARY MEDIA CONNECTION. 28-30.

 

Mentoring Discipleship 

MENTORING DISCIPLESHIP

Joe Hooten

Bethel College

Author’s Note

This was written for MIN461 Kingdom Theology and Application class with Professor Kintner.

Mentoring Discipleship
It is my belief that discipleship in the Church should be done by means of one-on-one mentoring. It is the model that Jesus set with his closest disciples. It is also the model that Paul set with Timothy. I think that churches should set up environments where structured one-on-one mentoring discipleship is made easy. This, of course, while it should be facilitated by the pastoral staff, should be done by the congregation working together with one another as the New Testament commands over 50 times, not the pastors themselves. Creating a pyramid of mentoring discipleship with each person mentoring 3-5 more would revolutionize the Church and spur unparalleled spiritual growth throughout the body of Christ.

This type of mentoring discipleship should be done in the context of the local church and spread out from there. It begins with Sunday morning and teaching how Jesus and Paul interacted with their followers. Practical messages with life application from the Scriptures that detail biblical living that later the mentors can review with those they are mentoring. These messages should also focus on how we can help, counsel, admonish, and live with one another in love, so that the body of Christ would be united.

These relationships should focus on personal growth in our love, knowledge, and obedience to Jesus our Lord. They should touch every area of life from finances and friendships, to spiritual growth and salvation. The relationship between mentor and the one being mentored should be one of the deepest relationships that we can have on this planet. Each person should feel that they can express anything to the other. Of course, “older” women should be mentoring the “younger” women and “older” men should be mentoring “younger” men. I say “older” and “younger”, but these terms are relative. Those who are more spiritually developed should mentor those who are less developed. It does no good for an older person who is a spiritual baby to mentor a younger person who has a healthy and vibrant relationship with our Lord. It should be the other way around. Age has nothing to do with it.

The way this would work in our culture of busyness is through personal meetings, phone calls, texts, emails, Skype, and Facetime. We are more connected to our world today than ever before. There is no reason or excuse for why we cannot take 10 minutes to touch base with someone every day or two. As much as is possible for both parties, life needs to be shared. I know that initially, this will be difficult where there is not an existing relationship, but with time and mutual effort, these relationships can become very fruitful. It will take work though. However, if we are serious about spiritual growth in our churches and in ourselves, we will be willing to put forth the effort.

I honestly do not know what a curriculum for this type of mentoring discipleship would look like or if there should be a set curriculum at all. There are some very excellent programs out there. For example, Mens’ Fraternity, Celebrate Recovery, Financial Peace University, and many more for both men and women, addicts, alcoholics, normies, and odd balls. I think that, depending on the individuals, different things will work for different people. For some people, a set curriculum may be better, but for others, simply working things out on their own would work better.

The model that I reflect to when I think of this is the model of the sponsor/sponsee relationship that you find in 12 step programs. I have been in Alcoholics Anonymous for my entire adult life. The relationships that I have developed with both my sponsors and sponsees over the years have been the most enriching of my life, except for maybe my marriage… In these relationships, we have not only kept each other sane and sober, we have also joined lives in the most intimate of ways. We have shared heartaches, troubles, joys, prayers, and tears. I cannot imagine a better way for the Church to interact with one another than to have these type of quality relationships flowing through our fellowship. 

The Church and our local churches desperately need to be built on fruitful relationships that produce growth in each individual. I think the mentoring discipleship model is the vehicle by which that can happen.